At first, Onibalusi said I was a great writer. Then Tamara Rasberry said nothing was wrong with my writing. And finally Carol Tice said I was already a great writer. But today, before I used to defend my unexplainable belief that I wasn’t a great writer, I discovered I actually am a great writer!
Which is really sad to acknowledge, yet great to hear…
For four days straight, I went on a hunt to improve my writing. The goal was: to have learned to write great and long articles like Onibalusi that got straight to the point like Robert Bruce’s writing pieces. Once I completed this task, I knew I could complete my personal goal in being a successful writer and blogger. The only problem was that…
I wasn’t sure—I wasn’t confident enough in my own writing abilities.
And ironically I wasn’t the only one that thought like this. So this made me wonder:
Do you REALLY believe in your capabilities?
Often you may continue to feel like you’re unsure about things (click that link NOW). As a resort, you’ll do a lot of research about it, and you’ll even begin to make conclusions that it’s impossible (your ability) to pull off. But you’ll still continue to research, because you’re somehow certain that you’ll eventually find it. When actually what you’re searching for is what you see every day:
And I already said it about a thousand times: you.
If you can believe in yourself, then you can believe in your capabilities. And believing in yourself is like realizing that you’re the most powerful person in the world, or that you at least one of the most amazing people in the world! After all, the best advantage in life is believing in yourself, and it’s also the key.
Which, again, is you–you are the key to life.
Besides, as many people as there are on this so-called small world of ours (earth), nobody really has time to believe in one person, because there are to many people on this planet that suck at being human. And yes, I may have went a little overboard with that, but it’s so true! So you practically owe yourself respect.
Just think about all the times when you had to result towards a moment that required hope.
When was that time that you took that moment, and said, “*sigh*… I guess I have to… blah blah”? When have you felt like that? What did you do when that happen? I know what you did: you gave up–you quit.
And yet this has happen to me many times, until now.
I now know my lesson about not believing in myself; I’m now confident that I’m much more capable than I ever thought (and think)… All because of the fact that I know what others like me think about. So here are some of the things that I do or use to believe in myself when I feel unsure about things:
I ask others like me the big questions that I have
Many times you’ll feel like there is a question you need to ask because you are still puzzled about what needs to take place before you can actually make something happen. But all you have to really do is ask at least 10 professionals that do what you do.
So since I’m interested in writing, I’m pretty big on making the best out of my articles. Therefore, I’ll ask many editors and writers a lot of questions that come to mind…
Including the stupid ones.
Now, sometimes I really do feel stupid just for asking those kind of questions, but I think a stupid question is worth a lot alone. Because what you don’t know can’t hurt you, and what you do know is the secret to great qualities, which explains why you’re who you are today, and why you are different from everybody (I hope that made sense).
So ask all and every question you ever thought about (just as long as it doesn’t offend anyone).
I think analytically with ambition
Besides, all the leaders are doing this these days, because this time of life is rough. So the only way to make the best of life, is to think analytically, and to have ambition. You won’t get anywhere if you can’t think through things, and you especially won’t get anywhere if you’re not serious about it.
Let me explain…
A lesson I learned from my Personal Development teacher was that you die the moment you stop having visions and goals. You stop thinking about things, and you stop doing things that could potentially get you somewhere in life. In other words, you lose faith; therefore, you put your goals on pause, which is where you began becoming reluctant towards things relevant in completing your goal. So you start to lose sight of your goals, and begin to dwell wondrously. But instead of doing that…
You can talk to people, which you know I’ve already said.
But the point is that, if you can’t at least think for yourself. Let someone think for you–let someone open opportunities for you so that you can find a reason to think…
Then, you can start thinking more clearly, and you can continue making more progress. Thus, you can do more analytical thinking.
I probably should have mentioned this earlier, but analytical thinking isn’t exactly about the thought of just solving problems. Analytical thinking is all about using your resources to solve problems, which (for the last time) are people.
It’s all about the people, who could be a great deal in solving your problem.
So go and read articles a lot, type questions into the Google search engine, ask someone who you know can help you move forward again, and do what it takes to solve that aggravating problem of yours.
Just say what you want, and get it.
And ask questions if you’re still confused… Because stupid questions are the ones that all the professionals have asked already. I’m serious… Do this… It works!
I practice taking pain and learning from it
If you’re human, then obviously pain is one of the many worst fears ever. But in fact, it’s just a thing…
It’s nothing physical at all.
When you see a boxer throw a punch at the other boxer, what do you get? You get action. The same goes both for the guy who throws the punch and the guy who catches the punch, but they don’t complain…
Because they know they’ll face many more of those in the match.
So what I’m basically saying is that life is a match; life is a professor; life is random… And you should want to take many chances in throwing punches back, taking those tests again, and rolling the dice. Because even if you miss at hitting the other guy or fail the test or land on the wrong number, you can always try again. And when you try again, you’ll know better… Because you’ll know what not to do…
And that’s completely natural for a human being.
Consider Albert Einstein as an example of pain, and learning from it:
This guy, sticking out his tongue, and probably wondering what his chin tastes like, who somehow becomes extremely famous to the entire world one day, who somehow fails school miserably (resulting in a graduation full of people one year younger than him)…
Succeeds…
After all those miserable relationships, failed courses, college rejections, and all the unbelievable things you wouldn’t be convinced by…
…Like I’ve said already, life is random, and you just have to “roll the dice” until you get the number you want–you just have to do it.
Sealing the post
What do you think you’re capable of? Are you really sure about your capabilities? Or do you believe you need to know more before you can advance further in your goal? Make your comment below.
P.S. If you didn’t click that link I demanded earlier, I want you to click this link now. I personally promise you won’t regret watching that video!
Inspiring post. Congrats and continue to believe in your writing abilities.
Glad I could help, Jarod!
I think Jonathan Fields has a new book you’re going to like…about facing Uncertainty. I just got to hear him talk about it at SOBCon. It’s going to help.
Shout-out to Onibalusi — keep rocking Africa and uplifting people!
Very true. So often I’ve been afraid to ask those ‘silly’ questions and in the end it delays a project or I don’t have a full understanding of what the goal is.